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I have compiled all the 20 wedding articles and present them nicely here for you to read them more easily. These articles were written by Stefanie based on the research in the library. They are basically informative, interesting, insightful, and funny. However, please spare me if you find anything inappropriate or the opinions inside contrast with yours. They are personal and written meticulously for the mass.
Why reading these wedding articles?
They have some information and knowledge about weddings that might add to your quality conversation with your to-be brides or gloom before your wedding, or simply fill up more into your knowledge tank if you are already a wedding expert. After all, the more you know, the more fun you live, the more bless is your wedding!
Alright, here you go the in-depth knowledge or purely interesting stories and words.Thank you.
#1 Sublime Unity
This is the very first introduction to the world what this site is about. I am Stefanie. I love fashion and am currently studying in a fashion design school in Melbourne. My dream is to run my own weddings shop and design millions of gorgeous wedding dresses to bless as many blissful couples as possible in my entire life. I am now serving the wedding community by listing the best 66 weddings readings along with the most gorgeous all-time wedding dresses in the world.
I would now take this opportunity to talk about sublime unity. Yes, weddings.
The first step to procreation is marriage which manifests itself in weddings. I mean human reproduction - civilized and legal. Animals procreate too, but they don’t wed. This is what makes human weddings sublime. Wedding, therefore, is the sole monopoly of the human race. To produce offspring sexually is a blessings sanctioned by god. It is a social responsibility of every man. God created Adam and Eve but gave them the freedom and responsibility to multiply themselves. Man understood well what god actually wanted from them. They then organized themselves to multiply by proper means that did not go way out of god’s will. Thus marriages through weddings have become the norms of civilized societies.
God sure blesses all weddings and marriages. So, for those who have come of age and have not tied the knot, why wait? Time and tide wait for nobody and opportunity knocks only once in your life. Don’t procrastinate. Have the wedding bells ring loud and merry. Lead your loved one to the altar now if he or she is worth your trust. When cupid strikes, act!
#2 Significant Meetings That Lead To Oneness
A young man meets a young lady. This does not have any significance if it is just a casual, ordinary meeting. They meet and part and forget. That’s it. However, if this meeting later develops into an intimate event where they start seeing each other more often and shower each other with care and concern. They pledge to sail the rough seas of life together and prepare to swim or sink not without the other.*(Love, true love then blooms).
They always split around hand in hand giving the impression of two parts of a loving whole.(from ” Dove Poem” - author unknown) They strive to see eye to eye in everything possible with their loved one trying to merge two hearts into a single soul. To facilitate the merging of two hearts into a single soul the loves will inevitably tie the noble knot. Their wedding brings joy not only to them but also to family members, friends and associates, in fact to everyone who are in some ways related to them.
Wedding is a noble occasion for every newly-wed. Through the process of wedding they are formally announced husband and wife which enables them to live together and sleep together without stigma. This is approved and sanctioned by his community. The writer sincerely hopes that this will inspire couples who are still mulling over whether to jump into wedding to make haste while the sun shines. Go, and let us hear the sound of that wedding bells bring joy and bliss to everyone who love you. Thou shall be blessed!
#3 A Sorrow Shared ; A Happiness Shared.
Two individuals are so very different and yet they do possess similarities. One might be male the other female; One tall, the other short; One optimistic, the other pessimistic; One dark, the other fair; One is aggressive, the other tolerant, etc, etc. Their similarities? Both have feelings, positive or negative; Both are reigned by their emotions, healthy or harmful; Both seek pleasure and avoid hardship; Both need to fulfill their biological needs, eat drink sleep, and sex; Both are heading towards the same destiny: death.
Two individuals might be brought up at different family backgrounds socially, educationally and culturally and yet they can stand as one sharing their future, their life. This miracle is brought about by a well-planned wedding that leads to the consummation of a marriage. Once a marriage is consummated husband and wife will have to be tolerant of each other. They will have to accommodate their loved one’s capricious words. The wedding they have gone through serves as a binding factor that enables them to stand as one sharing their future.
Remember, wedding is no kidding matter. It is a sacred and noble marriage vow to shoulder each other’s tribulations and share each other’s joy. A sorrow shared is half a sorrow; a happiness shared is double happiness!
p/s: Has anyone of you shared your happiness? I’m sure you have, and know how it feels. But has anyone of you not shared your sorrow(s)? If you have not try it next time and tell us how you feel.
#4 “I Do”. What’s Next.
“I Do” is an affirmative of a wedding couple that spew out of their mouths without much ado. It is sort of a pledge that they do not hesitate to take the other as their spouse for life. These two little nice-to-say and pleasant-to-hear words are expressed in the presence of a legions of audience who make up a significant part of their wedding ceremony. In other words they are witnesses to the couple’s solemn pledge. After the “I do” what’s next?
The couple might adhere to their vow and stick together to sail through life’s uncertainties. They remain loyal to each other through thick and thin. They will not separate and be each other’s shadows whatever that comes. And not to fulfill the “I do” pledged on their wedding is worse than to commit a profanity on their marriage. A man of dignity will never do that. Or, the couple might just remember vividly every detail of the wedding, but not the “I do”.
After the wedding, they stick for a while, just for a while, and then go their separate way! They share a bed but dream different dreams as the Chinese say. They quarrel over trifles. They pick on each other to throw tantrums. They start seeing each other’s weaknesses which they refuse to see during the courting days, and now feel disgusted. Before they were led to the altar, every single weakness was seen as human. Now they ask for superhuman - a perfect flawless individual. Seek, and ye shall not find( I’m not quoting please, It’s my own version). Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Remain then as a lover after you have become husband and wife and everything sure will retain its beauty.
#5 A Joyous Gathering
A wedding is a joyous gathering. It is an auspicious meeting where people come with a good common cause to shower their blessings upon the newly-weds. They come wearing beautiful smiles on their faces and putting on their best-ever clothes. When they speak, they are cautious enough to choose words pertinent to the occasion that make everyone happy. No one would be offended. Joy, joy, the vicinity is filled with nothing but joy. Every nook and corners is full of beams. The atmosphere is light and the people are happy.
On the faces of the wedding couple you see not a vestige of gloom. Their feelings towards each other is nothing but that content. They are doubtless on cloud nine. The joy and happiness of the crowd is seen no more when the wedding comes to an end as they have to part and go their separate ways. But the joy and happiness of the wedding couple should not end with the weddings because they are still gathered together and shall be together for years to come. They are not supposed to put aside their smiling faces. They are to continue putting up their best-ever for their spouse to savor. They have to be cautious not to neglect the wedding parlance when they speak to each other. They must take greet care not to blurt blasphemous language on their loved one.
If you care to live by the above guidelines listed in the weddings readings, then be assured that living together as man and wife harmoniously is not that difficult.
#6 The Joy Of Sharing
Remember sharing a glass of lemonade with your lover before your wedding? Two straws dumped in a glass with each sucking on one to empty the glass, slowly. Remember the romantic bites you shared on a piece of cake or candy during your courting days? No, these sharing are not meant to save on a few cents because saving is not your priority, but romance is. And most of all sharing most of your time together.
How about sharing opinions on a shopping spree? Exchanging opinions, giving and listening to suggestions was fun then. Fun, yes - before the wedding takes its toll on you. All the magic joy of sharing seems to disappear with the sounding of the wedding bell. The sound of the wedding bell seems to have woken you up from your propensity to romantic sharing. “Everything for both” stands no more. Now you want everything to be yours. Every single credit that comes to the family must be from you. Your spouse has been inadvertently and unfairly sidelined. Everything is yours while your spouse is left with nothing else that he or she can be proud of. The following is an episode I gleamed from I don’t know where.
A woman likes to boast about her possessions to friends and neighbors. One day she will flaunt her husband’s new sports car around the neighborhood and proudly tell the neighbors,”Look, this is MY new sports car, it costs me….” Next day, a colleague hears her saying,”MY house is a double-storey semi-D situated in the most exclusive part of…..” And yet on another day,” You know how I got hold of this pedigree poodle of mine?” thinking her next-door-neighbor knows nothing about poodles. The husband is furious and screaming into her face,” Will you please stop saying “My car”, “My house”, “My poodle”, “My fridge”…stop using the word “My”. Aren’t those possessions “Ours“? One day the husband came home from work. He notices the wife looking high and low for something. In response to his enquiry, the wife retorts,“I am looking for OUR bra!” The embarrassed husband just retreats saying to himself,”Oh god, please forgive this innocent woman. She still chooses not to appreciate the joy of sharing.”
#7 Union Of Heart And Soul
Wedding is a union between two individuals. It is a ceremony involving a lot of physical activities. Preparations for a wedding take place months before the actual day. There’s always much hoo-ha about a wedding. It is a material aspect of a marriage where money is thrown lavishly to make the occasion look merry and joyous. Thus the couples face is saved.
It has been said that wedding is not a good yardstick to gauge the prospective couples success in their married life. A grandiose wedding is no guarantee for a happy future. Likewise, a simple, easy and comfortable wedding might bring everlasting bliss and joy to the couple as well as their families.
A wedding has to be a holy union that leads to the unison of the hearts and souls. Things united in a physical manner will never last. they’ll fade and fall asunder in no time whereas individuals bound by the hearts and souls will never part.
A wedding is not something to be flaunted. It should be a humble, practical and comfortable ceremony to truly announce the holy union of two hearts and souls.
p/s: If you can afford, would you have a lavish wedding or just a humble, simple and comfortable one?
#8 Life’s Adjustment
If marriage is an adjustment in one’s life then wedding has to be the beginning of that adjustment. If you have not prepared and are not ready for it, don’t plunge head-on into this so-called wedding business. Because what follows might be an excruciating experience. Some people may find it nice. Well, it depends.
A friend of mine used to tell me,”Oh, wedding day is the best day in one’s life.”
“How?” I asked.
“Why not? You are the King for that day. You will be escorted and be driven in a beautifully decorated car to wherever you want to go. There will be someone to open car doors for you. Even though for just a day, a king you’ll be!”
After that, of course, you’ll have to make adjustments. You are no more a single person free to do whatever you want. You have to care for the feelings and the likes and dislikes of your spouse. You’ll have to accommodate and adjust to your spouse’s way of life with your spouse reciprocating.
Not only that, you’ll have to take the sensitivities of your spouses family into consideration not excluding their relatives.
It’s will be a Goliath’s task if your spouse is from different cultural ambience. Whether you can build a cordial and harmonious relationship with your spouse and her family very much depends on your capacity to take things in your stride.
So now you know, wedding is not child’s play. In a child’s play you can run back home and bury yourself in your mum’s bosom to cry your heart out when your playmates refuse to tag along. A wedding is absolutely an adult game. It is legally-bound. No kidding!
#9 The Wisdom Of Wedding
Does wedding warrant any wisdom? It does. Or else why should so many young couples try to beat the crowd just to say “I do”? Restaurants are doing a roaring business during the auspicious wedding months. Dinners have to be booked months for ahead of wedding.
Then, the wisdom of wedding? From the biological view-point, we need to set free our sexual need which is a natural tendency every healthy single individual experiences from time to time. So, when the need arises, we can fulfill it legally and honorably. Wedding gives us this license.
A person who has come of age for wedding and nurture a family has to be mentally and physically matured. He is able to restrain his emotions and thus enhance his spiritual life to attain peace and tranquility. In other words, he lives a wholesome life.
To have descendants is of utmost importance. Not to have descendants is not showing filial piety to one’s parents. Not to show filial piety to one’s parents is a great sin. This is why parents would like their children to wed and to produce offspring and thus bring joy and happiness to the family.
Through the act of wedding, families of the bride and groom are brought together. This will further establish a strong and intimate relationship among members of the two families enhancing love and affection in the human fraternity.
Listen, there goes another wedding bell!
#10 The Significance Of Pairing
Most of the worldly things exist in pairs. They are either positive or negative. If they are not “ying” then they have to be “yang” according to the Chinese. These elements must come together to achieve harmony. Wasn’t God created Adam and Eve as a pair?
Oxygen has to combine with hydrogen to form water. A battery has to have two opposite ends - the anode(positive) and the cathode(negative) to function. Likewise, in the plant and animal kingdoms we have the male and the female(the yang and the ying) each playing its role in procreation to ensure continuance of their species.
The same goes for the human fraternity. Men and women must pair up to produce offspring. But as man is God’s most noble and distinguished creation, he has to do it in a proper and honorable way. As it is, he has to go through the wedding ceremony to pronounce the legality that he is taking this lady as his wife. And, the wedding also allows him to have sexual relations with this lady to consummate their marriage and live as husband and wife.
So, now you see, a wedding is nothing but a pronouncement of pairing up of a couple who are going to live together as man and wife. They are now free to fulfill their sexual need which is a natural tendency bestowed by God. Their wedding gives them this license. Cohabiting without going through the proper process of wedding is impropriety. Am I being too far behind time?
#11 Pairing With No Wedding
Do you know how the Arabs paired themselves up to become man and wife in the Age of the Agnorance, aka the Pre-Islamic Period? In those days wedding was never heard of.
A few prospective young men, say around ten of them, were admirers of a certain woman. They then took turns to sleep with her. If the woman got pregnated and gave birth to a child, she would, a few days later, summon all the men together in front of her. Then, she would say to them,”As you all knows what you have done upon me, and now I have borne you a child. And the child is yours(she would then call out, among them, the name of the man she adored). The child thus immediately found its father. There was no denial about it. The man had to take the woman as his wife.
I would venture to make a guess. I presume that period of their sleeping together was their “wedding” according to today’s jargon. They already became husband and wife i.e. they had consummated their marriage at the time of their wedding.
But today, before the consummation of a marriage, a wedding has to be arranged.
Or, are we reverting to the Pre-Islamic Period of the Arabs in this so-called Digital Age where consummation comes before a wedding? Where co-habitation precedes wedding?
#12 Whose Choice?
When young people have found their compatibles after a long but tireless courting game, they may want to decide to sail through life’s rough seas together. They’ll have to plan for the wedding. But whose choice? This wedding I mean. The parents of the young couple or the couple themselves?
Societies differ in their norms when it comes to selecting wedding partners. In the olden days wedding partners were selected by the couples’ parents. The young couple may not have even seen each other until the wedding day. They were expected to learn to love each other on and after their wedding. What if they failed in their mission which they probably would for sure. Their life would turn sour.
They were not given the freedom to choose because they were considered too emotional in selecting compatible mates. But this can be true only if they were not given the time and opportunity to understand each other. In other words, if they were not allowed to mix and socialize.
I would stick my neck out and say that it is impossible for people to sympathize as well as to empathize with one another if they are deprived of the chance to mix and to mutually explore deep into their feelings together. After all, a wedding between two individuals demands mutual understanding, sympathy as well as empathy.
Young couples should stand up for their own weddings!
#13 Material Versus Romantic
In the olden days parents chose their daughter’s wedding mate based on social status and financial standing. The groom’s parents would ask for a girl from a “good” family whose social hierarchy matched theirs. The bride’s family would base their choice on how financially secure the prospective son-in-law’s family was while the groom’s family how agreeable the prospective daughter-in-law was to the young man’s mother. This was important at the time where patrilocal residence was the norm.
Patrilocal residence : a home where married couple live with the husband’s family.
Weddings in those days were based on compatibility of families but not compatibility of the wedding couples. Material wealth was the yardstick then. Romantic encounters would most likely meet with opposition from the families. Romance was a taboo to the old folks.
Romantic novels of the past more often than not ended in tragedies for the courting couples. Wedding gowns were never made for them. Wedding bells rang, but never for them. Some chose to end their lives together in a tragic manner. The wiser ones eloped.
In the olden days material weddings had the upper hand. Today, romantic weddings take the lead!
Agree?
#15 A Youthful Pursuit
Mention “wedding” and the mind immediately conjures up pictures of a young and youthful couple putting on their best - in attire as well as spirit.
Wedding is a youthful pursuit. How young then should the couple be? Between the ages of early twenties to the late thirties or even early forties? Yes, I should think that’s about the age range though early forties is a rarity. Any age below that is looked upon as still raw.
But do you know that in the distant past, parents used to marry off their daughters at the tender age of 15. This practice was prevalent especially in relatively poor and traditional societies. The philosophy behind it was marrying off young daughter often means having one fewer mouth to feed. And also to avoid the dishonor of her bearing illegitimate children. The parents would arrange for the wedding. The poor girl had to acquiesce and wager her future on a husband whom she had no knowledge about.
In the modern age, arranged marriages are things of the past. Young people are free and allowed to choose their own spouse. They arrange their own weddings with little interference from the parents. All they ask for is the parents blessings on their wedding day.
Since wedding has become more of a personal matter, young people choose to marry at much a later age when they are financially well established. After all, they are not going to stay with their parents after the wedding. They want to be independent in every aspect to live their own life! Extended families are being replaced by nuclear families. That’s it.
#16 Matchmaking Versus Courting
If you are a subscriber of 1 Weddings Readings, you probably still remember the article Material Versus Romantic. It has inspired me to offer you this Matchmaking Versus Courting.
Matchmaking is obsolete. Parents don’t talk about it nowadays. Young people don’t even have the motion of what it is as they don’t have to go through that stage before their weddings.
With the advent of love match, matchmaking was forced to take the hind seat. Courting before wedding is the norm today. Matchmaking only comes into play when singles fail to find their wedding mates which is a rarity by today’s standard. They then have to surrender their fate to the matchmakers who claimed themselves experts in the matching game.
Modern generations, however, do not take to matchmaking because they abhor the idea of betting their future in the hands of a third person - the matchmaker.
If a match-made wedding did not see the couple through fingers would then point at, not the couple, but the matchmaker. It was the matchmaker who ruined the life of the couple, so it was thought. It was the fault of the matchmaker who arranged the wedding. Relationships between the couple’s families and the matchmaker would turn sour. Enmity might even be the end-result.
But in a love match wedding if the marriage does not sail smooth, the couple can only blame themselves for being blind to the other’s weaknesses. But now after the wedding, little foibles have become intolerable with the sweet-loving-courting days being over.
Matchmaking is done, more often than not, as a gesture of kindness. But beware, it may misfire and land you in trouble. Why not leave the young people to choose and make their own decisions as to whom they want to marry?
#17 Monogamous Wedding
Most societies in our modern world today practice monogamy – the marriage of one man to one woman. The family is, by and large, nuclear and monogamous, and moving towards egalitarian. Husband and wife have equal say in the running of the family. The question of who wears the trousers on certain matters, no doubt, still exists, but on the whole, both the parties still share equal rights.
In a monogamous society people only go through weddings once in their life time. For good or bad they have to accept that wedding. The law forbids them to take a second wife. Repeat weddings will therefore cause raised eyebrows.
However, a new variant of polygamy has sprung up and marred the morality of this system. People have one wedding, one spouse, and keep to the game of not having several spouses at the same time. But the law cannot stop them from divorcing and marrying another for as many times as they like. This is not polygamy, really, but in actual fact a serial monogamy, the marriage only one at a time of one person to several individuals.
And legal marriage, strictly speaking, must be preceded by a wedding. This wedding may be scaled down in quantum – the gathering of a few close friends for a simple meal to pronounce the subsequent marriage. Isn’t this a wedding, or what else can we call it?
#18 Polygamous Wedding
I touched on monogamous wedding in my previous article. Now, what about polygamous weddings. How does it work out? And does it work out harmoniously? It is rather difficult to imagine.
A polygamy is a marriage of one person to two or more people of the opposite sex. In a polygamous society if there is one, a person’s wedding takes place more than once irrespective of men or women. Polygamous weddings confuse family relationship. No one member of the society can lift the lid off to see how the children are related to one another. All because of a person’s multiple weddings!
No one can tell for sure whether two (it can be more) children are half-brothers or half-sisters. Who fathers whom is a mystery(leave the DNA alone). What more, two children(or more) who are taken for half-brothers or half-sisters may not be. So, you see how relationship of the posterity has become messed up that even fathers are not sure of their own blood.
This goes true also in a polyandrous society where our woman is married to two or more men. Of course, this is again a rarity.
What is more practical is polygymy - marriage of one man to two or more women. This system is practiced in the Muslim societies. But of course before a man takes a new wife there are certain conditions he has to fulfill according to the tenets of Islam. It is to take care of the welfare of the weaker sex!
#19 Polyandrous Weddings
Polyandrous weddings occur in a society where the population of men is more than that of women. Polyandry is actually the marriage of one woman to two or more men.
Polyandrous weddings also occur in a society where it is very difficult to make a living. Hence, it needs more than one man to support a woman and her children. It is practical in a matrilineal society where family relationship is based on kinship with the mother or the female line.
After the wedding, the woman remains a member of her mother’s household. Her children are considered to belong entirely to her kin group and not the husband’s. In some societies, the child could only be admitted to its mother’s lineage if, and only if, it had an acknowledged father. And this man has to be one of the woman’s appropriate wedding partners. He is also required to pay part of the expenses for the birth of the child.
In polyandry, none of the husbands has exclusive sexual rights to his wife. However in some polyandrous societies, the subsequent husbands will have to have the first husband’s consent to have sex with the common wife. In other words, the man who fails to clinch the first wedding of the woman also fails to stand tall among the husbands.
In polyandry, repeat weddings for a woman is, therefore, permitted by the law. It is in fact an absolutely rare form of polygamy.
#20 Polygynous Weddings
Polygymy is a more specific term for the practice of wedding more than one wife. In the polygynous weddings, the first wife usually has a more important position than others. However, all the wives are treated fairly and they either live together or close to one another. They may even live far apart. The father claims all the children and supports them. Fair enough.
The Muslim religion acknowledge polygymy. But only men who are rich enough and able to support big families are likely to wed more than one wife. Even that, they are allowed to marry up to four wives only.
In comparison, polygynous weddings are far more popular than polyandrous weddings, another specific term for polygamy, ( Remember “polyandry” I touched on in the previous article?)
While the Muslim religion permits a man to wed a maximum of four wives, in some religion there is no limit as to the number of woman a man can wed.
Polygymy is widely practiced among the Africans. Among the many customs attributing to polygymy is the custom of levirate. According to this custom, a man is obliged to wed the widow of his own brother whereas in places where the sororate custom is observed, if a wife bears no children, the husband will then wed her sister. Their relationship has now turned from brother-in-law and sister-in-law to husband and wife. Isn’t this interesting? The other interesting thing about this is, some or all of the children born as a result of the second wedding will belong to the barren wife.
Monogamy is my first choice. Polygymy comes next. Polygamy and polyandry are not in my mind. How about you?
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May angels bless the wedding community:)
Hi, I am Stefanie. I am currently studying in a fashion design school in Melbourne. My dream is to run my own wedding shop and design hundreds of gorgeous wedding dresses like Oleg Cassini so the blissful brides can put on the extra blessings by me. I am now serving the wedding community by listing the best 66 weddings readings along with the most gorgeous all-time wedding dresses to gear you up before stepping in the altar.
